Unfair Expectations: A Major Cause Of Depressed/Wayward Youth

​Are You putting unfair expectations on your kids? You might be pushing them away when they need you most.

In life generally, there is an expected order of things. You are born, you grow up, go to school, get a job, get married then take care of your parents or take care of your family before getting married. In reality, life hardly ever plays out like that because as with drama, tragedy will always occur. It may come at the start, at the middle or at the end. One thing is sure, there will be hurdles you have to cross.

I’d like to believe we agree on that. If so, why then do we put unfair and unnecessary pressure on one another to be the perfect daughter/son, perfect wife/husband, perfect child or perfect worker as if life isn’t hard enough?

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What I Learned From Being Called ‘Selfish’

Did you know that every human being’s default setting is at ‘selfish’? That’s why it’s a huge deal when you meet someone that people consider selfless.

As Makcit, I’ve never thought I was a selfless human, but I was very sure I wasn’t selfish either. At least, not until I spoke to this new guy I met recently, the boyfriend material guy from my last post. You can job your memory here.

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Online Dating: The Good, The Bad, and the very Odd

It’s been a while and I do apologize for not keeping you updated. A lot has happened in the last couple of weeks which I shall tell at a later date, but today is dedicated to the distinct personalities I’ve encountered on my quest for a white mate in the online dating world.

The responses I get when I mention this quest of mine are divided between those for and those against who think I’m either a joker or operating in an alternate universe. Thing is, I don’t give a…. Fudge! 😁

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I’ve been waiting for the time to write on this subject. I recently attended a friend’s send-off prayer and there I met Helen Binbol. Before I say anything more, I must tell you that she is a very nice person. She is always ready with a beautiful smile for anyone she meets.
Now, back to business. It was quite unfortunate that I missed her song presentation, but I was in luck ’cause she had the soft copy and she sent it to my phone. I didn’t know what to expect, but I was pleasantly surprised and proud. Surprised cos she blew it outta the park and proud ’cause she sang in TAROK!

There seems to be a surge of Tarok talent circulating. I’ve heard a few and it makes me proud to know that my people are really doing music and not just going mainstream. There are the likes of Dan Tally, Pon J and a host of others. Today is about Helen’s song which has a hint of the infamous South African rhythm that you can’t help but love… I will let you listen to the song and judge for yourself… I know you won’t regret it.