Online Dating: The Good, The Bad, and the very Odd

It’s been a while and I do apologize for not keeping you updated. A lot has happened in the last couple of weeks which I shall tell at a later date, but today is dedicated to the distinct personalities I’ve encountered on my quest for a white mate in the online dating world.

The responses I get when I mention this quest of mine are divided between those for and those against who think I’m either a joker or operating in an alternate universe. Thing is, I don’t give a…. Fudge! 😁

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Online Dating: The 3 Things You Should NOT Be Doing

There was once a time when online dating was for loosers and perverts, but that time is long gone. Statistics show that there is a growing number of first time online daters as well as returning users and marriages resulting from online dating sites.

According to the PewResearch Centre, “5% of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship say they met their significant other online” so it can’t be bad right?

Don't do it

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Online Dating… In Search Of A Mate 

​”Follow your dreams. I am not saying it’s going to be easy, but I am saying it’s going to be worth it.” – Moffat Machingura

I just recorded my first rejection in my online dating quest. I must admit, it hurts a lot than I would have thought.

I recently joined this site (which I absolutely love so far) and the first thing I did after completing my profile was to start flirting. Don’t worry, it’s not as scandalous as it sounds. A flirt is just like ‘liking’ on instagram (the icon is a heart) it’s just a way of showing interest in someone. I like it, but I have one problem with it which I’ll come back to later. 

So after joining the site a few days ago, I received my first ‘Sorry, I’m not interested’ and even if I don’t know the person, it stung, but I guess I appreciate the fact that he didn’t just ignore the flirt. Good right?

Back to my problem with the flirt… I read a lot of bios and some stood out more than others for different reasons – I could relate to certain aspects of a person without liking the total package either because they are young or not into Africans, but how do I ‘Like’ your hobby or compliment your music sense without sending a flirt? You see where I’m going right?

Nonetheless, I still love the site,, and I intend to subscribe so I can send messages as well as see who has viewed me. Yay!

Why I’m Doing It

I renewed my quest for a white mate when I chatted with the lovely Gazelle Abraham who encouraged me so much, and then I did a Google search and came across the aforementioned site and so far, I have no regrets.

Online dating isn’t necessarily easier than dating I’m real life , but it’s just an alternative that pays off for some and if the advice from successful users of the site is anything to go by, all you need is to be truthful and patient. The rest will happen when and if it’s meant to be.

“Leaving what feels secure behind and following the beckoning of our hearts doesn’t always end as we expect or hope. We may even fail. But here’s the payoff: it can also be amazing and wonderful and immensely satisfying.” – Steve Goodier

I’m very hopeful and my confidence is increasing by the day so no ‘sorry, I’m not interested’ will deter me from my journey to find the perfect mate. :*


The True Meaning Of Success

Jeff Goins, a writer I admire very much wrote a post about how he had to redefine his measure of success because he’d gotten all he set out to and still felt like he wasn’t yet successful. Sound familiar?

What does success mean to you?

I am still far from achieving success in any sense of the word, but I’ve had to reevaluate what it means to me. sunset-summer-golden-hour-paul-filitchkinSimply put, I’d say success is

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COCIN: Elratam, Others Attend The 2016 RCC Karu Music Concert

The 2016 Rcc Karu music concert was attended by Elratam, a worship group from Jos, COCIN Rcc Abuja Youth Band and other special individuals.

The event which was scheduled to take place at the RCC Headquarters, COCIN Nyanya, was moved to the church at Old karu due to some unfinished work in the auditorium at Nyanya. Despite a lack of sufficient place, most people agree that this year’s concert was more engaging and uplifting.

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At What Point Is Divorce Okay?

divorce-Marriage certificateI’ve had one or two Muslim friends ask me about divorce in the Christian doctrine. When you explain that a woman cannot leave her husband because of the vow she made to “have and to hold… till death do us part”, not everyone gets it.

It’s almost impractical to say you can’t get out of a sad or traumatic situation, but that’s my religion and I respect it.

Now, I want to talk more realistically.
I listened to Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo on The Udy Factor, an AIT Programme, and the discussion got round to divorce and what he thinks about it. I don’t remember his words verbatim, but what I took away from his submission was;

  1. Marriage is a covenant between two people.
  2. When the marriage is based on a lie then the covenant has already broken.
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